My 30th birthday has finally happened… I’ve finally joined the club, and it welcomed me with a bit of a rocky start in all honesty. My boyfriend tested positive for covid 3 days after, and 2 family members were in hospital within 2 weeks of it… they are all okay (we should be thanking our lucky stars for the NHS and modern day medicine every damn day), but it was not the best start to my 30s. So, I’ve done a fair bit of reflecting lately and I thought I’d share 30 important things that I’ve learnt in my 30 years on this planet so far…
- Tell the people you love that you love them, often. This is probably one of the most important pieces of advice I could give you.
- You know your own body. If you feel like something isn’t right, speak to a doctor. Get help. Don’t leave it. Probably the second most important thing I could tell you.
- It’s fun getting to know yourself more. Take the time to do so.
- Not everyone you meet is going to like you, but you’re also not going to like everyone you meet. There’s nothing wrong with either of those things. It’s just life, babe.
- Rest. Keeping busy is fine and all, but make sure to rest too. Let your body re-energise and recover. Give yourself the time and space you need, otherwise you might just lose control. Believe me, burnout ain’t fun.
- Challenge yourself often. Whether that’s mentally or physically. Stepping out of your comfort zone is a brave thing to do and will push you to a new level of yourself that you didn’t know was there.
- Laugh. E v e r y d a y. It’s one of the simplest joys in life and one of the best forms of healing.
- Be accepting of yourself, in whatever way that may be. Once you accept yourself for the way you are, life naturally becomes a little bit easier, even if you have to go through some hardships along the way. Acceptance is key.
- However, contrary to point 7, if you don’t like certain aspects of the person you are, you can always work on changing that if it’s in your control. Let me just emphasise that this is not me telling you to go and get plastic surgery, ok?! Unless it’s really going to change your life… then go ahead.
- Be kind to others. Little acts of kindness can make a huge difference to your own life, let alone to the people you show them to.
- Brush your teeth… Twice a day.
- Friends will come into your life, and some will leave it. Your close circle doesn’t have to be large. It has to be real. Quality over quantity.
- Be honest with yourself. Be open and honest with those close to you. Connections grow with these two things.
- Set boundaries. Don’t be afraid to say ‘no’ to the things that don’t align with you, that won’t make light you up.
- Saturn Returns hits hard for some. Whatever happens, just go with it. Do what feels right and good things will happen. We’re not born to stay the same our whole lives – don’t be scared of changing, of growing. Your top priority is yourself, so you have the right to be selfish about such things.
- The little things in life will actually bring you a lot more joy than you realise.
- Some of the things you thought you’d never do when you were young, actually turns out to be quite enjoyable as you get older. One example for me?… Gardening. I specifically remember telling my Dad and Stepmum at some point in my teens that I’d never like gardening, and here I am now at 30, getting a lot from it.
- Mark Twain was right. The only certainties in life are death and taxes. So why do we give ourselves so much worry about other uncertainties that might not even happen?!
- Embrace all of your quirks, your uniqueness. It’s what makes you special. It’d be so boring if we were all the same.
- People are way more worried about themselves than they are you, in the nicest way possible. Let that give you some comfort.
- Its part of life to have ups and downs. Don’t be disheartened if you’re having a tough time, because things will get better.
- Talking therapy works.
- A positive investment in yourself is never a bad investment.
- Feel your feelings, don’t push them back down. You won’t believe the weight you had on your shoulders until you speak out and relieve yourself of (some of) it.
- Get out into nature often. Go for a walk without your phone, or at the very least turn it on airplane mode. Be completely present.
- Make regular time for yourself to do the things you love, whether that be baking, reading, going for walks or listening to podcasts. The more time you spend doing things that make you happy, the more nourished you life and soul will be.
- Remember to check in on your family and friends. They may need your support without you realising.
- Keep hydrated!
- Be grateful. Gratitude goes a long way and enables you to become more acutely aware of the little joys and joyful moments in life.
- The person you are when you’re 14/18/21 is not the same person as you are at 25/27/30 etc. The person you are at 26 isn’t even the person you are at 27, and definitely not the person you are at 29 or 30. Just be happy to go with it and see what happens.
So there you have it. I hope you find at least some of them helpful. Let me know in the comments if any of them stand out to you!
If you have any other wise words I’d also love to hear those so please do pop them down below.
Until next time… ✌️